3 Red Flags: Lesbians Prone to Scams

You’re on dating apps hoping to meet like-minded women, but fear running into smooth-talking scammers. You feel a spark of attraction, only to be asked for money or personal info. Some even pretend to be "one of us" to gain trust, then leak your details later—countless lesbian women have fallen for these tricks. But no matter how hidden scam tactics are, they always leave clues. Based on cases from LesPark’s Safety Center and tips from thousands of users, we’ve summed up 3 major red flags to help you stay alert!

Red Flag 1: Rapid Emotional Bonding + Vague Key Details

This is the most common romance scam: As soon as you match, they use lines like "love at first sight" or "I’ve finally found you" to speed up the relationship. They send good morning/good night texts daily and share "deep" feelings, but dodge all questions about their real life.

How to Avoid:

① Ask for "specific details" within 3 days: For example, "You said you’re a designer—what kind of projects do you work on? Do you have any recent case photos?" or "Do you live in XX District? My friend does too—there’s an amazing noodle shop there." Be wary if they give vague answers or change the subject.

② Watch out for "over-the-top romance": If they say "I can’t live without you" or "I want to spend my life with you" right after meeting, but refuse to take time to learn your likes, it’s almost certainly a scam.

③ Use LesPark’s "Real-Name Verification": Prioritize building relationships with users who are verified and have real-life updates. Accounts with vague profile pics and no posts can be skipped entirely.

Red Flag 2: Using a "Special Identity" or "Crisis" to Ask for Money/Resources

Scammers often pretend to be "vulnerable" or "fellow lesbians in trouble"—like claiming they were "kicked out by family for coming out" or "need money for medical bills." Others bait you with "I’ll hook you up with resources" or "Let’s invest together to make money," then ask for cash or personal favors.

How to Avoid:

① Say "no" immediately when money is mentioned: Whether it’s "borrowing money to get by," "investing for quick returns," or "paying a fee for a business opportunity," never agree—even if they promise to "pay you back in a few days."

② Verify their "identity/credentials": If they say they’re an entrepreneur, ask for their "online store link" or "physical shop address." If they claim to have resources, ask for "a few samples/cases first." If they can’t prove it, it’s a scam.

③ Use LesPark’s "Report Function": Screenshot and report any account asking for money. The platform will quickly investigate, ban the account, and alert other users.

Red Flag 3: Avoiding In-Person Meetings But Constantly Asking for Privacy/Updates

Some scammers don’t ask for money directly—instead, they pretend to be "deep friends" and keep requesting your photos, work details, home address, ID, or even intimate videos (to use for blackmail or sell your information). They’ll refuse to meet in person, using excuses like "social anxiety," "long-distance," or "afraid of ruining the chemistry."

How to Avoid:

① Never share private info: Don’t send your address, ID number, work location, or intimate photos to someone you just met online.

② In-person meetings are a "test": No matter how well you click, be alert if they avoid meeting for over a month or keep making excuses. People looking for real friendships will usually agree to meet offline.

③ Report threats right away: If they threaten you after asking for private info, save the chat logs, report them on the platform, contact customer service, and call the police if necessary.

Final Note: Safety Comes From "Proactive Prevention"

The core of lesbian dating is "sincerity," but sincerity doesn’t mean being defenceless. Remember these 3 red flags: rapid emotional bonding with vague details, asking for money/resources, and avoiding meetings while demanding privacy. They’ll help you avoid 80% of scams.

At LesPark, we prioritize women’s safety with features like real-name verification, post reviews, and regular scam-prevention guides. You can report suspicious accounts with one click. Good relationships aren’t about "rushing in"—they’re about "taking it slow and being sincere." At LesPark, we protect every genuine connection and block all scams. May you stay kind but stay sharp as you search for your people!