How to Date an Older Sister

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1. Offer both material and emotional value​

If you're still relying on your family for living expenses and can't afford to give your sister big-name bags or treat her to fancy dinners, then put more effort into providing emotional value! For example, if your sister works overtime late, you can order her favorite late-night snack in advance and send it to her office. When she complains about troubles at work, don't rush to give advice. First, listen carefully to her complaints and occasionally chime in with things like "That's so annoying!" or "I'd definitely break down too if that happened to me." Just like my friend Xiao Zhou, he didn't have much monthly living expenses, but he remembered the coffee flavor his sister loved. He got up half an hour early every day to bring her a cup, along with a warm note, and slowly walked into her heart. If you're financially independent, occasionally giving carefully selected gifts along with considerate company will earn you extra points!​

2. Sincerity is the ultimate trick​

Don't try to pursue your sister with cheesy pick-up lines or push-pull tactics you learned online. She's probably seen more tricks than you've heard of! For example, when asking your sister out, don't be 故作 mysterious and say "I'll take you to an amazing place" only to end up at an ordinary shopping mall. Be straightforward and say "I heard the new restaurant has good food and a rooftop perfect for taking photos. Let's go try it?" When you encounter a problem you don't understand, don't pretend to know the answer. If your sister talks about investment and financial management and you're not familiar with it, just say "I don't know much about this. I really want to hear you explain it to me!" This kind of candor will make people think you're genuine and cute.​

3. Turn the relationship into teammates fighting side by side​

Don't treat your sister like a "goddess" to be worshipped, and don't always wait for her to take care of you. For example, when exercising, don't let her teach you and wait for you the whole time. Do your homework in advance. When running, you can discuss the correct posture with her, and when working out, supervise and encourage each other. On weekends at home, don't just lie around waiting for her to cook. Take the initiative to help, and study new recipes together. Occasionally, when your sister is in trouble, you can be like a big tree for her to lean on, accompany her to analyze and solve problems, so that she can be a carefree child in front of you.​

4. Use patience and firmness to open her heart​

Older sisters have more life experience and yearn for a stable and long-lasting relationship. Pursuing her isn't a matter of three or five days. You might ask her out three times in a row, and she might refuse because of work. Don't give up easily. Send her a message saying "It's okay. I'll be free whenever you're done with this busy period." When Xiao Wu was pursuing his favorite sister, he insisted on sharing interesting little things every day. Even if her replies were intermittent, he didn't back down. After more than half a year, he finally got her to open up. Remember, your enthusiasm, vitality, and firm choice are the magic weapons to move your sister. During the pursuit, don't forget to improve yourself and become better together with her. Only such a relationship can go steadily and far.