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你值得被选择「理想的伴侶，應該是一個獨立的瘋子。」 —— 納瓦爾（Naval Ravikant）他真正想說的是：你要找的那個人，就算沒有你，也能把自己的人生過得很好，甚至快樂、完整、自由。但他仍然選擇留下來，不是因為需要你撐住他的人生，不是因為害怕孤單，而只是因為愛你。成熟的愛，從來不是「我沒有你不行」，而是「我一個人也很好，但我清醒地選擇你」。如果一段關係讓你必須縮小自己、犧牲界線、反覆證明價值，那也許不是愛得太深，而是站得不夠平等。真正的親密，是兩個獨立的人並肩，不是一個人拯救另一個人。你值得的，從來不是被需要，而是被選擇。

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Julie： You're absolutely right. Unfortunately, that truth is never taught. The only models of love we see in TV shows and movies portray people as incomplete until they can live with their "one true love." This idealized and immature view leads to manipulation: "I can't live without you" being the most obvious example. I hope that one day the vision you describe will be the most widely represented; it would liberate many people in general, and many women in particular.