Why Some Lesbians Prioritize Academic Qualifications
“Some lesbians place particular emphasis on academic qualifications?”
To many people, this might seem like a stereotype about the lesbian community. However, when we truly delve into the inner thoughts of this group, we discover that behind this “sapiosexuality” lies a multitude of genuine considerations related to survival, personal growth, and aspirations.
This so-called “sapiosexual tendency” is not so much a deliberate choice as it is a natural expression of the “admiration for strength and competence” shaped by one’s upbringing. Many lesbians experience competition with others during their growth—whether it’s catching up academically or pushing themselves to grow in daily life. Through repeated efforts to move forward, those who stand out in competition and secure their footing with wisdom and hard work naturally inspire sincere admiration. This admiration has nothing to do with gender; it is a recognition of “excellence” itself and a yearning for the quality of “shining through one’s own efforts.”
The widely discussed “obsession with academic qualifications,” in essence, is not a fixation on a diploma. Instead, it stems from being drawn to the “sense of reliability” that higher academic credentials represent. Higher education often implies a more systematic knowledge base, clearer logical thinking, and greater ability to tackle life’s challenges through one’s own efforts. For lesbians, this “sense of reliability” is particularly important: the ideal partner we long for is not someone who needs to depend on others, but a “comrade-in-arms” who can walk side by side with us and face life’s hardships together. When we envision our ideal partner, we unconsciously gravitate toward those “capable of taking control of their own lives”—because beneath this lies the hope that “together, we can build a good life.”
Moreover, in East Asian societies, academic qualifications are no longer merely a “certificate of learning”; they have become a “stepping stone” for many ordinary people to improve their living conditions. When most people are competing fiercely for higher academic qualifications to pursue a better life, and when the social evaluation system often links academic credentials to more stable jobs and better financial conditions, higher education naturally becomes a potential symbol of “financial independence.” For the lesbian community, financial independence is never an “added luxury” but the “foundation for securing a stable life and sense of purpose.” We yearn to be less controlled by external forces, to freely choose our loved ones and our way of life—and the prerequisite for this freedom is “being able to stand firm on our own two feet.” Therefore, when we see women with high academic qualifications and financial independence, we can’t help but be drawn to them. It’s not the “qualifications” themselves that attract us, but the “confidence to live independently” that these qualifications represent—a confidence we all strive for.
Of course, we must acknowledge that the “obsession with academic qualifications” in East Asian societies is a complex issue. It is closely tied to social structures, salary levels, and traditional values, and cannot be simply judged as “right or wrong.” However, the lesbian community’s heightened focus on academic qualifications stems from a more urgent need: compared to the mainstream heterosexual community, we are more eager to break down prejudices and improve our living conditions through our own efforts. We do not “worship academic qualifications”; what we admire is the ability to “live beautifully through our own efforts.” We do not “prefer intelligence above all”; what we favor is a soul that “resonates with us on the same frequency and grows with us.”
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