9 Feelings Only When You Truly Fall in Love
When you’re around someone you like, your heart skips a beat and your eyes unconsciously follow them—but so often, we’re left wondering: Is this just a fleeting crush, or the kind of lasting love that stays? This confusion feels even more common in lesbian relationships, where there are fewer “conventional” benchmarks to reference. Today, let’s talk about 9 feelings that often emerge when lesbians truly fall for someone—helping you clarify what’s in your heart.
The Urge to Draw Closer Holds the Warmth of Your True Feelings
Genuine liking is never just “admiring from afar.” You’ll crave physical contact with them, and it doesn’t have to be intimate gestures to count. Even accidentally brushing arms when walking side by side, naturally taking their hand when crossing the street, or a warm hug when they’re upset—all carry the intention of “wanting to be closer to you.” More importantly, beyond physical closeness, you’ll also be willing to share your “little secrets” with them: the frustration from work today, funny childhood stories, small worries about the future… This kind of trust—where you “dare to say anything”—is more precious than any gesture.
Healthy Possessiveness Is the Tenderness of Fearing Loss
Possessiveness is inevitable in love, but true love isn’t about control—it’s about cherishing. You’ll care if they get too close to others, and quietly feel jealous when they’re kind to someone else. This isn’t about restricting their freedom; it’s because they feel so precious to you that you’re afraid of losing them by accident. For us lesbians, it’s not easy to meet someone we click with and feel attracted to in a crowded world. So this “wanting to keep them close to your heart” kind of possessiveness is actually another way of saying “I care about you deeply”—as long as we’re both willing to leave a little space for each other, so possessiveness never becomes a burden.
“You’re the Prettiest” – The Personal Filter Only Lovers See
Once you fall in love, they’ll seem to have a built-in “beauty filter.” To others, they might look ordinary, but to you? The dimples when she smiles, the side of her face when she’s focused on a task, even the way she acts silly sometimes—all feel incredibly cute. This “prettiness” isn’t just about looks; it’s about being drawn to her personality, talents, even her little flaws: how she listens to you patiently, brings you medicine when you’re sick, or gives her all for the things she loves. These qualities make you want to get closer, to know her better.
Comfort Like Family – A Secure Sense of Belonging
True love never requires “being perfect all the time.” When you’re with her, you don’t have to pretend or fear you’re “not good enough.” Even with no makeup, in loungewear, or ranting about life’s annoyances, you feel at ease. She’ll tolerate your little moods and understand your vulnerabilities—warm like family, but with the extra sweetness of attraction. This “no need to put up a guard” comfort is the kind of love many lesbians long for—because you know she’ll never judge you, no matter what you’re like.
“I’m Proud of You” – Unhidden Admiration
In a healthy relationship, both people “shine” for each other. You’ll feel proud of her achievements: when she gets a promotion, you’ll be happier than if you’d gotten one yourself; when she learns a new skill, you’ll can’t help but mention it proudly to friends. Even when she hits a setback, you won’t think she’s “useless”—instead, you’ll see how hard she’s trying and admire her resilience even more. This feeling of “I accept you, no matter the ups and downs” is the precious support that holds a lesbian relationship together.
Can’t Help Praising You – Sincere Happiness
When you like someone, you’ll find yourself praising them without thinking. It’s not a perfunctory “you’re great”—it’s a genuine desire to tell the world “how amazing she is”: when she makes you a cup of instant noodles, you’ll think “this is the most delicious noodles I’ve ever had” and even tell your friends about it; when she snaps a random photo of a landscape, you’ll say “it’s better than anything a photographer could take.” This joy over her small gestures, and the urge to share it, is the truest sweetness in a lesbian relationship.
Because of You, I Feel More Valuable
Good love makes both people more confident. After being with her, you’ll start to notice your own strengths: “Turns out my smile is nice,” “I look charming when I’m focused,” “I have so many things worth loving.” She won’t put you down or compare you to others—instead, she’ll tell you “you’re special” and “I love you just as you are.” This feeling of being respected and affirmed makes you think, “Life is good, and it’s all because of you.”
Your Sadness Becomes Mine – True Empathy
True love means “taking your pain as my own.” When you see her upset, your heart aches for her; when she’s in trouble, you’ll want to help her solve it right away; even if she just says “I’m so tired today,” you’ll want to hug her and share the weight. This empathy isn’t forced flattery—it’s caring so much that you naturally think of her first, willing to sacrifice a little of your time and interests for her.
You’re Always in My Future Plans
This is the most crucial one: True love always includes “the future.” You’ll unconsciously weave her into your plans: wanting to rent a small apartment together someday, decorating every corner of your home as a team; dreaming of traveling with her, seeing all the world’s sights; even imagining sitting on a balcony together, soaking up the sun and reminiscing about the past when you’re old. For us lesbians, the future might hold a lot of uncertainty—but just thinking “she’ll be there” makes everything feel steady. Because this hope of “wanting to walk through life together” is the strongest proof of love in a lesbian relationship.
On LesPark, Meet Someone Who Shares Your Hopes
No matter which of these feelings resonate with you, love always boils down to two things: sincerity and mutual commitment. If you’re a lesbian looking for this kind of love—someone to share your thoughts with and plan a future alongside—give LesPark a try. Here, you’ll find a community of fellow lesbians, all searching for genuine connections and longing for a love where “you both see each other in your future.” On LesPark, you can be your true self without fear, share your life with people you click with, and slowly draw closer to someone who makes your heart race. Maybe the one who’ll make you feel all 9 of these things is already here, waiting for you.
